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reality vs perception



“my reality is different than yours” – does that make mine wrong?

I had this conversation months and months ago with a friend.  I have been thinking about it again as it has cropped up in another conversation with another person.






Going to put in some definitions here of PERCEPTION and REALITY.

From Webster’s Dictionary:

Definition of PERCEPTION

a : a result of perceiving : observation (see perceive)b : a mental image : concept
obsolete : consciousness
a : awareness of the elements of environment through physical sensation <color perception>b : physical sensation interpreted in the light of experience
a : quick, acute, and intuitive cognition : appreciationb : a capacity for comprehension

Definition of REALITY

: the quality or state of being real
(1) : a real event, entity, or state of affairs <his dream became a reality(2) : the totality of real things and events<trying to escape from reality>b : something that is neither derivative nor dependent but exists necessarily
: television programming that features videos of actual occurrences (as a police chase, stunt, or natural disaster) —often used attributively <reality TV>
— in reality

: in actual fact


Ok…with those definitions above, does that make me wrong?  I don’t think so.  I am being REAL when I PERCEIVE something, correct?  Whether it’s a behavior I see in another person or in my own life, or the words that come out of their mouth or mine.

What is reality but a concept unique to each of us? Can anything be classed as real when our perceptions differ greatly on so many things? Just because we see something a particular way does not make it so. We can be so insistent sometimes that our way of seeing something is more right than someone else’s way.  But when the other person is asking for your honest opinion….then what?

“We see the world, not as it is, but as we are” – Talmud

Your belief structure determines your perception which then ultimately determines how you respond to events. Going by that sequence you can then see that there is another place to start. You can choose to examine your beliefs and then choose to change them. That’s why I say that everything begins with a choice.

There is no such thing as reality. There is only ‘your’ version of it which is essentially your perception. Remember that what you believe to be true is only as true as your worldly experience and it doesn’t go any further than that. Even many scientific theories are just that; they are theories! It doesn’t make them so.

My reality is my perception of reality. There is no right or wrong with my perceptions, no absolute truth except my truth through my learnings and experiential filters.


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