Here is # 4 Epiphany to think about:
4. Most of life is imaginary.
Human beings have a habit of compulsive thinking that is so pervasive that we lose sight of the fact that we are nearly always thinking. Most of what we interact with is not the world itself, but our beliefs about it, our expectations of it, and our personal interests in it. We have a very difficult time observing something without confusing it with the thoughts we have about it, and so the bulk of what we experience in life is imaginary things. As Mark Twain said: “I’ve been through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened.” The best treatment I’ve found? Cultivating mindfulness.
I find mindfulness difficult at times. Most the time my mind is way to FULL. I have these very busy thoughts running and running around in my head. It’s hard to slow them down enough to just sit and breathe somedays. But ya know, if you can actually sit down, turn off your phone, shut down the computer, turn off the tv and music, and just sit. Total silence. I know…..silence. You hear what? Your breath? the hum of the AC? the birds outside? the neighbors upstairs? What do you hear? do you hear all that noise in your head? STOP! for a few moments and block out all that noise and listen to your own breathing. In and out. feel that breath go in and out. relax. and breathe. calm your insides which calm your outsides.
It works!! just try it for a moment. Once or twice a day. If things get too hectic….stop! block out all that noise and take a minute or two and become mindful of your breathing. relax. and breathe. you will soon notice your heart beat calming down. you will be able to think more clearly when you get back to work or whatever it is that you were doing.
I am no guru in this. But i have practiced a lot of this. I believe this is how I survived for a long time. How I got through some most stressful times in my life.
I am working with K about not making big things out of small things. Her thinking makes her observation of things clearly out of proportion of what is. I know her brain isn’t all grown into what an adult brain is, but trying to help her to understand that these little things don’t have to be huge things is something that she needs to figure out. She soon will be in situations where having full blown melt downs is not exceptable at her age. albeit, her melt downs have become less and less over the summer (thank the good Lord). I know she is growing up and showing change. Her attitude is changing too. Teaching her mindfulness is difficult tho. She has a hard time grasping that idea. But I am not giving up on that. 🙂